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Breaking Free from Victimhood
Turning Trials into Triumphs
Life is hard. Sometimes, it can seem downright cruel. When things in your life go south, it can be all too easy to fall victim to the villain of self-pity. ‘Why me?’ ‘This always happens to me!’ ‘I can’t get a break!’ ‘This is so unfair — I deserve better.’
People suck: they don’t care about what I need.’ Shame on them! I’m a good person — I shouldn’t have to go through this! Yada, yada. A
All of these whines and moans are false self-truths. And if you tell these lies to yourself, they tend to become self-fullfilling prophecies. However, even when life has you down, you can still hit them out of the park. The secret is developing the capacity and habit of mind to turn victim to victor.
The Trap of Victimhood
Victimhood is tempting. It allows us to negate making any decisions at all, to not even try anything new. If we are doomed to fail at something we never even attempted, then we can always say ‘I tried’, even when we didn’t.
The problem is that it’s also a prison of your own making. No you don’t get to blame anyone or anything else for this I’m afraid. It’s a way of binding and constricting your future and your possibilities.
